I haven't thought much about these four words so much in my life. The last few days, though, I realized again the beautiful importance of these words.
Only if we listen.
When I ask how are you, it can easily end with "Fine. Everything is going great. Yes, yes it is."
It seems so quick. But, it is rather convenient.
It takes a bit more work to have to engage in talking to someone. And, sometimes we run from it because it doesn't feel very productive. I have things to get done!
But, in those moments, those precious moments when something else isn't tugging at you, these sparkling jewels of transformation appear! And when I meet someone in that way, where I get to hear their story, my whole self lights up! It ends up feeling very selfish.
They give me a great gift of really knowing them. I am changed each time I choose to embrace that moment. I learn about how someone aches for their mother years after her death. I learn about someone's travels to the United States from another country. I hear about someone's spouse, child, sister, brother, friend, niece, or nephew. Others share what may be happening at work, or at their church or community. I hear how people have tried to run their own businesses, opened their hearts to a dream, just got back from a weekend trip. Others have shared to the point of wonderful laughter, teary eyes, and anger (yes, anger). It is a lovely gift. It is our connection to one another and our humanity.
Now, I know every conversation cannot be transformational, but I have encountered the beauty of others so many times when I decide to enter in after the "Hello, how are you?" This risk we take may lead us to having to see another person beyond what we need from them at that moment.
This week, the 5 workshop invites you to take 5 minutes, and ask someone how they are with a bit more behind it . . . curiosity to know more.
Curiosity behind leadership is inviting. People have ideas and stories to share.
Our curiosity opens us up to possibilities. When you learn about others, it is possible to learn something about yourself, too.